I believe the majority of people are honest, decent, and tell the truth to others. But what about telling the truth to yourself? Are you honest? There’s that little voice inside that advises you. Sometimes it whispers, sometimes it yells. Do you hear it? Do you listen or ignore?
How does little voice relate to decluttering? When I declutter, I ask a question based on Marie Kondo’s KonMari method: “Does it spark joy?” The simple answer to the question is “yes” or “no”. The heart tells the answer, but sometimes the head gets in the way. This is second guessing. The head is great at doing this. It comes up with wonderful excuses to talk you out of what the heart said. This is the “yes, but…”
Here is an example of honesty in action. Last night as I was putting away laundry decided to straighten up the shelves, which tend to get messy. (Thank G-d I didn’t find any chometz in the process.) In addition to straightening, I decided to KonMari some clothes at the same time. ****Note: decluttering is a never-ending process. One MUST stay on top of it, even a Klutter Koach.***
I pulled out a light-weight crew necked teal sweater with ribs. I remember getting it a clothing swap last winter. I loved this sweater. I wore it all the time during the past two winters…however…something changed. I started to feel the sweater was too long in the torso. I think it was probably designed for someone taller than myself. I tolerated this nuance for a long time, but that little voice started telling me I didn’t want to have this sweater any more. I’ve been ignoring it for weeks. I also have a lovely chocolatey brown corduroy skirt I bought at a second-hand shop. I bought it a few months ago, but then I began to wish it was a drop longer plus, it was not fitting properly in the waist. I love the colors of these items, but…but… But then I got brave. I got honest. These items truly were not sparking joy. I listened to my heart. I put both items in the give away bag.
So now it’s your turn. Let’s give it a go and practice listening to the voice.
Grab a sweater from your closet, with spring is on the way hopefully soon we’ll be packing up our winter clothes. I’m sure there are some things you’ll want to keep for next year and other things you don’t.
Does this sweater you took from the closet spark joy? Do you love it? If you had to wear it now, would you?
- If you answered “no” to the questions, then say good-bye to the sweater. Put it in a bag of items to give away.
- If you answered “yes”, keep it. Put it back in the closet.
- If you answered “Yes, but…” you may be having an issue being honest with yourself.
The “but” is because your head is trying to talk your heart into keeping something you don’t want. A list of possible reasons your brain has come up with:
- I paid good money for it.
- It was a gift.
- I’m going to lose weight and then it will fit.
- It’s a great sweater.
- I’m waiting until I have the perfect skirt/shirt/ pants to match it.
SOMETHING about that sweater bothers you whether the color, the style, the itchy tag, the fit, your tastes have changed, you associate it with a bad memory, it rides up, it make you look fat, it used to be a favorite, etc.
The “yes, but…” is an indication this sweater is not sparking joy, not a favorite. Pass it on. Declutter it from your closet, your space, your life.
That, my dear readers, is how you do the KonMari method and how to declutter. HONESTY is the key. It takes practice to be honest. Lots and lots of practice, but as they say “practice makes perfect”.
Thanks for reading.
Karen aka The Klutter Koach