Don’t Second-Guess

The secret to the “I never have anything to wear” dilemma is to keep only clothing you love in your closet.  Let’s say you were running late and need to grab a top and a bottom. Would you be comfortable with those items you chose?  If there is something bothersome about what you selected it is an indication the item does not “spark joy” and getting rid of it would make you happier than keeping it.

I’ve been having a debate inside my head regarding some of my shells (solid-colored shirts worn either alone or under another top for modesty).  My preference is for the neckline to cover the collarbones.  I like a high neck but not so high it feels like it’s choking me.  I prefer my sleeve length to be at least two inches past my elbow and not ride up when I bend my arm.

I have a few shells in my closet that I constantly avoid wearing.  Today I had a conversation with myself that went like this:

Me: I don’t feel comfortable in this.

ME: What’s wrong with it?

Me: It’s too open in the neckline.

ME:  You could wear something under it to raise the neckline.

Me:  That would be too hot for summer.

ME: It’s really not that bad.

Me: But I’m not comfortable.

ME: Maybe it would make a good sleep shirt or a layering piece for winter.

Me: I’m really not wearing this one.  Instead of taking a minute to get dressed today it has taken me 15 minutes.  I don’t have time to spare in the morning. 

ME:  But it’s really a nice shirt.

Me: I’ll pass it on.  I can’t do this every time I pull out this shirt.  Goodbye, shirt. Hasta la vista.

Sleeve length too short
Neckline too wide
Neckline too low

For a little show and tell here are the items I removed from my closet today.  One had sleeves that were too short, one had a too wide neckline, and one had a too low neckline.

For some people there is no issue.  THESE ARE MY PERSONAL PREFERENCES.

As you can see by the conversation with myself,  I keep trying to second guess myself.  In the end I listened to my heart.  Now getting dressed in the morning will be much easier because I now have only things I love to wear.

Thanks for reading.

Karen, T.K.K.

Published by Karen Furman

Hi. I’m Karen Furman, a home organizer and decluttering professional. Organizing is something I’ve been doing since 1st grade when used to straighten everyone’s desks. Fast forward a few decades later, I turned my passion for organizing into a business. Philosophy = Your home should be organized so you know where things are, to the degree that you feel relaxed and not stressed in your space. Method = A combination of Marie Kondo + FlyLady + my own style. YOU make the decisions. YOU decide what to keep and not to keep. I help provide clarity. Attitude = Positive, enthusiastic, non-judgmental

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