Were you ever in a relationship that needed to end? Even when you knew it was the right decision it did not make breaking up any easier. The time has come to break up. The relationship I am referencing is not with a human but with Facebook. We’ve been in a long term relationship almost a decade. We’ve been together in all types of weather, but now I’m going in a different direction. It’s dragging me down. It may be a one-sided relationship and it wants me back, but I’m going to be strong and move on. Begging me stay and reconsider is not going to happen. There will be a void to fill, but I’ve got plenty of other meaningful things to do to fill my time with.
Most humans in my life think I’m crazy for inactivating my account. I’m not dying (G-d forbid) I am merely leaving social media. There are the “old fashioned” ways to keep in contact with people: e-mail, phone, SMS, and even the ancient art of penning a letter on paper. I am still here and alive on this planet G-d willing until 120 and have not vaporized into thin air. I’ve been questioned if this will hurt my business. I considered the question and the answer is no, it will not. Word of mouth is the best advertising and my clients are happy to recommend.
Everyone is asking me why I’m doing this. There are many reasons. The top of the list is my family who needs me. A child requiring help in the kitchen should be attended to immediately not told “I’ll be there in a minute (or two or three or more)” because Imma (Mommy) is scrolling a news-feed.
Another reason is so I can get un-addicted to FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out). I love to read up on topics of interest, but when is it too much? If I’m not scrolling maybe I will miss out on the best organizing or parenting tip ever. In reality, I won’t and life will go on.
I want to change the level of kiddusha (holiness) in my home. I’m not thrilled with every image nor every headline I see. Some of them are quite upsetting and my little ones don’t need to happenstance walk past my computer at the very moment something offensive appears. My home is my oasis and these things are impinging on it’s sanctity. Also, if I have time to scroll, I have time to pray. My priorities need rearranging. The first thing I should do in the morning is open a prayer book, not a web-page.
Easy decision. No. The right decision. Yes. I’m not taking an opinion survey whether anyone agrees or disagrees with me. Perhaps you can’t envision a life without social media. I have envisioned it. I have seen positive things and even mini-miracles during the weaning off FB phase of which I’m still experiencing. I haven’t left yet, but it will be soon.
Thanks for reading.
Karen, T. K. K.
June 29, 2017