The Secret to Happiness

Sorry to disappoint you, but I don’t know the secret to happiness.  HOWEVER, I recently discovered TWO THINGS which have made me much happier.


The first was an inspirational message I saw: “Turn your “have to’s” into “get to’s.”  It’s an attitude we can all use every day to view our lives through a lens of gratitude.” says Bert Jacobs, Co-Founder and CEO of Life is Good.

I’ve heard over and over to “be grateful”, “keep a gratitude journal”, and “count your blessing.” but this simple yet powerful quote made my thought process do a 360.

My self-talk had been a lot “have to’s” and now I am focusing on the positive “get to-s”.

For example, I don’t have to go to clean up the house, I get to clean up the house.  I don’t have to go grocery shopping, I get to go grocery shopping. Makes these tasks feel more like privileges than something I don’t want to do.


The second thing which has increased my happiness was turning off  (almost) all notification sounds on my phone.  Without all the constant bings, dings, and pings. I feel less on-edge, less on-call. The urgency factor of needing to respond was really getting my adrenaline up.

Decluttering this cyber noise has really made me feel less agitated and more in control of my time and not a victim of technology. I feel I’ve returned to a simpler and happier era.

Try these two tips.  You may just be happier about it.  I know I am.

Karen, The Klutter Koach

May 9, 2018 (Updated December 31, 2019)



Published by Karen Furman

Philosophy = Your home should be organized so you know where things are, to the degree that you feel relaxed and not stressed in your space. Method = A combination of Marie Kondo + FlyLady + my own style. YOU make the decisions. YOU decide what to keep and not to keep. I help provide clarity. Attitude = Positive, enthusiastic, non-judgmental

3 thoughts on “The Secret to Happiness

  1. Hilarious! In a great instance of coincidence, I had also turned off my notifications yesterday and was telling Dan how much I loved being in greater control of when I check my phone. Also not being constantly distracted was a gift. Wishing y’all a shabbat shalom, Rebecca


  2. I love the second one – turning notifications off your phone. I did that a long while ago (although sometimes some apps slip up) and I definitely love not feeling attached to it. Though that goes out the window soon as I’m sending a message I care for a reply to.


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