Come As You Are

Ok, I like this Nirvana song (even if I can’t understand most of the lyrics) but I really love the message of the title.  COME AS YOU ARE.  BE YOURSELF. There are great quotes “Being yourself, everyone else is taken”.  Rabbi Zusha can only be Rabbi Zusha.  They why do I feel so much pressure to be someone I’m not?

With the economy its current state of affairs, its wise to have multiple income streams.  Looking into potential positions, the descriptions for the ideal candidate are all the same.

“Go-getter”. I’m ambitious, but not going to hustle.

“Fast-paced environment”. I don’t like fast-paced. I’m a slow-and-steady wins the race gal.  If I rush, I make careless errors.  But I work efficiently.

“Multi-tasker”. No, I’m not. I like to focus on one thing a time.  This is especially apropos in the kitchen…just ask my husband.  I’ll put up a pot of water to boil and then leave the kitchen to attend to something else…not a good thing.  Timer…set timer. Can’t forget this step.

“Team-player”  Whenever I hear this phrase I think baseball.  I’ve never excelled in sports.  I took dance lessons and karate.  Do I get along with others? Yes.  Can I compromise, negotiate, see another’s point of view? Yes-but it doesn’t mean I have to agree with it.  Do I want to work on a team… it depends if it’s large or small.

“Fast learner”   Eager learner, yes.  Fast-how fast?  Hear it once remember it forever? No, and this isn’t realistic.  Learning a new skill takes time, patience, and practice.  I was a classroom teacher for 24 years.  Present, practice, practice, and practice. Most people seem to have a milli-second attention span…I can’t see how they do it…

“Good communicator”. Yes, can do this. But communication means you should also be able to listen.  I can do this also.

Maybe it’s my age-nearing 50-that I’m not meant for a quick-paced, fast-track, rising star team-playing environment. Maybe it’s just me.  In any event, why do I feel pressure to need to conform to these buzzword descriptors?  I like moderately paced, not slow not fast.  I’m not meant to run at breakneck speed.  “Slow and steady wins the race.”  Do millennials even know who Aesop was?

ee cummings had a quote that I first encountered in 7th grade and have loved it ever since

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Be yourself.  Your value comes from being you. Come as you are.




Published by Karen Furman, The Klutter Koach

Hi. I'm Karen Furman. I have a background in teaching and I have always loved sharing knowledge and inspiring others. I create home organizing solutions to maximize space and transform homes spaces from chaos to calm by helping my clients make their space more functional.

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